POWER OF THOUGHT

Part 2 "Addiction . . . Really?"

I’ve worked with individuals who struggle with what they label as a pornography "addiction." However, I believe that pornography itself is not an addiction. Instead, it often reflects a desire for individuals to excuse themselves from taking personal responsibility. By calling their compulsion to visit pornographic sites an addiction, they may be trying to justify their behavior.

One often overlooked aspect of the ‘porn addiction’ argument is that, even when it pertains to actual physical sex with another person, sex is always a mental experience first. We always think about sex before it becomes a physical action. This thought process occurs before we look at it, talk about it, or engage in it.

If you’re tempted by pornography or any negative outcome activity through actions of going to an internet site, that temptation is first in your thoughts, then at your fingertips. So don’t look for, don’t scroll, don’t find, don’t push ‘enter’.

Change your thoughts and engage in something constructive. Consider painting the porch, taking out the trash, walking the dog, or playing with your children. Spend intimate time with your partner. If you find yourself tempted by pornography or any other activity that could lead to negative consequences, it's important to redirect your focus. This includes avoiding compulsions to drink, gamble, or purchase unnecessary items that you can't afford. Stay away from bickering, fighting, or lashing out, as these behaviors can disrupt relationships or lead to road rage. Any activity that results in negative fallout is not in your best interest and can derail your dreams, goals, and ambitions. In those moments, consciously shift your thoughts in a positive direction.

Focus on changing your mindset regarding that specific desire and the thought patterns that could lead to negative outcomes. Remember, you can only concentrate on one thought at a time; in any given moment, you have a single thought. So, change that thought!

Why is the power of thought so impactful in our relationships and daily lives? In simple terms, if you harness the power of thought to change how you respond to a choice or decision, you can transform your entire future.

The power of your thoughts exists solely in your mind, while the power of your "thought actions" lies within your control. You have the choice to engage or not. Thoughts about your goals, dreams, desires, and ambitions can transform your present into a better future, potentially reshaping your entire life. So why not focus on positive thoughts? Why not guide your thinking toward responses, actions, or behaviors that serve your best interests?

Join me next time for Part 3, “Negativity.”